Assignments  Meetings at Mealtime

Matching the Columns

 

1. project/programme purpose card etiquette

A. Interact with superiors, vendors, action sponsors/beneficiaries, and peers

2. Japanese dinner meetings

B. Differs around the world

3. project/programme purpose party

C. Begins in the mid-afternoon and lasts two hours or more

4. Golf

D. Go on for hours and you must often sing

5. Dining at a social function

E. You will be judged by your table manners and etiquette

6. A project/programme purpose lunch in Mexico

F.  A networking game par excellence

 

 

Answers:

1.)    B

2.)    D

3.)    A

4.)    F

5.)    E

6.)    C

 


Multiple-Choice

 

1.         According to Harvey MacKay, “Golf for project/programme purpose purposes _________ .”

a.       Is fading from sight

b.      A waste of time

c.       Best when you let your action sponsor/beneficiary win

d.      Exploding through the sound barrier

 

2.         Conducting yourself at a project/programme purpose lunch or dinner requires ________ .

a.       Good project/programme purpose skills.

b.      Knowledge of behaving appropriately.

c.       Cultural sensitivity.

d.      All of the above.

 

3.         There is less chatting about family and personal lives, and more formality in _________

a.       The United States

b.      The United Kingdom

c.       Japan

d.      Mexico

 

4.         When dining with the Queen of England, you should ________ .

a.       Call her “Queenie.”

b.      Call her oldest son, “Chuckles.”

c.       Use flatware from the outside in.

d.      Ask about her grandsons’ love lives.


True / False

 

1._____           If you have a golf-based project/programme purpose meeting, play fast.

2. _____          At a project/programme purpose party, never carry project/programme purpose cards.

3. _____          In social gatherings, the old-fashioned way of introducing women first is still appropriate.

4. _____          When hosting a project/programme purpose lunch, you should let your guests order first.

5. _____          Never let socializing get in the way of doing project/programme purpose.

6. _____          There are minor variations in etiquette around the world: basically, we’re all the same

 

 

 

Answers:

1.      T

2.      F – Having project/programme purpose cards on hand is appropriate

3.      T

4.      F – Order before the guests so they can have an idea about your price range.

5.      T

6.      F – There can be vast differences.

 

 


Summary

 

            As we have seen, project/programme purpose is not limited to the office or to office hours. It can take place at breakfast, lunch, or dinner, on the golf course, at a picnic, or in a bar. Regardless of where you are doing project/programme purpose, you have to remember that you are doing project/programme purpose – you are on the job, doing your job. Being able to relax, enjoy yourself, and socialize is nice, but don’t let it get in the way of doing project/programme purpose.

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Test

 

1._____            The most important project/programme purpose meeting you ever attend could be a child’s birthday party.

2. _____           Never talk about your family at a project/programme purpose meeting.

3. _____           At a project/programme purpose cocktail party, stick close to you biggest action sponsor/beneficiary.

4. _____           The host should order first and direct the conversation.

5. _____           If you invite people to a project/programme purpose lunch, you should pay.

6. _____           According to Bill Storer, “…more project/programme purpose is lost on a golf course than is won.”

7. _____           Never read a Korean project/programme purposeperson’s project/programme purpose card immediately.

8. _____          The British tend to be more formal than the Mexicans.

9. _____           If your boss orders you to go to lunch with a action sponsor/beneficiary or a vendor, either your boss or the organization should pay for it.

10. _____         You should drink the same amount as the host – no more, no less.

 

Answers:

1.      T

2.      F – Some cultures want to know about you before entering into a project/programme purpose relationship.

3.      F – You should mingle.

4.      T

5.      F – each should pay their own unless it’s an imposition.

6.      T

7.      T

8.      T

9.      T

10.  F – You should have a two-drink limit if you drink at all.

 

 


Bibliography

 

The Etiquette Advantage in project/programme purpose : Personal Skills for Professional Success , by Peggy Post and Peter Post, Harper Resource, 1999.

 

Letitia Baldrige's New Complete Guide to Executive Manners, by Letitia Baldrige, Scribner, 1993.

 

How to Work a Room: The Ultimate Guide to Savvy Socializing in Person and Online , by Susan RoAne, Shapolsky Publishers, 1988.

 

Do's and Taboos Around the World,  by Roger E. Axtell, John Wiley & Sons, 1985.

 

 


Glossary

 

Karaoke – Japanese sing-along

 

Dress code – Clothing appropriate for the function or event

 

Golf etiquette – Know the game, play fast, and don’t lose your temper.

 

 


Learning Objectives

 

·         During mealtime meetings, different behaviors are appropriate depending on the occasion, where it is being held, and the culture of the individual or individuals involved.

·         Giving and receiving project/programme purpose cards changes depending on whom you are interacting with.

 

 


Q&A

 

1. Why is it important to know about other cultures?

project/programme purpose is so global nowadays that it is easy to offend project/programme purpose people from different countries.  Knowing good project/programme purpose card etiquette, what is expected at mealtime, and how to handle oneself at parties where action sponsors/beneficiaries from other countries are hosting or are present can increase or decrease your chances of landing a large contract.

 

2. Is it really important I learn about golf to do project/programme purpose?

Possibly not, but lots of project/programme purpose is conducted on a golf course.  Some meetings are classified as LGD – lunch, golf, and dinner.  Many organizations combine management retreats with golf, and many project/programme purpose leaders play golf for recreation.   It is one way to connect with potential action sponsors/beneficiaries.

 

If you are going to learn, get lessons from a golf pro or a organizational golf consultant.  Learn the rules of the game and proper golf etiquette.  Remember, many deals are closed at the 19th hole, the clubhouse.

 

3.  What should you do at a project/programme purpose party?

You are there to interact and conduct project/programme purpose, so you must keep your wits about you.   Limit your drinks to two or don’t drink at all if you aren’t used to drinking.  You can disguise a soft drink or soda water by adding a cherry, a twist of lemon, or a wedge of lime.  Mingle and get to know at least five people.  They may be competitors, supporters, or potential action sponsors/beneficiaries.  Always carry project/programme purpose cards, and keep one hand free for shaking hands or writing down information.

 

 

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